As the boundaries of parenthood continue to evolve, one question remains unanswered— Is surrogacy an ethical option?
What started out as Lily Collins and Charlie McDowell’s announcement on welcoming a baby quickly turned into a fiery internet debate when the new mother revealed she had her baby via surrogacy. Since the “Emily in Paris” star shared the news, opinions on the legality and morality of surrogacy have flooded the internet, with people arguing on extreme ends of the spectrum.
Surrogacy, the practice of carrying and birthing a child for another person or couple, has long been a contentious issue. While some argue that it’s a compassionate and empowering way to build families, others claim that it’s a morally dubious practice that exploits women’s bodies. Although we acknowledge and support women’s autonomy, are all choices regarding surrogacy valid?
Is surrogacy human trafficking?
One recurring argument against surrogacy is that the practice is human trafficking. The legality and ethics of surrogacy vary widely depending on the country, state, or region. While some countries like the United States, Canada and several European countries permit surrogacy under specific regulations and guidelines, others such as France, Germany and China have banned or severely restricted it.
In Nigeria, surrogacy exists in a legal gray area. Although Nigeria does not prohibit surrogacy, it has not established a legal framework for regulating the procedure. However, it’s essential to note that the procedure is not inherently equivalent to human trafficking. While both involve the use of another person’s body, there are crucial differences.
The procedure involves a voluntary agreement between the surrogate and intended parents, whereas human trafficking involves coercion, or deception. A valid example of human trafficking is the cryptic pregnancy scam exposed by the BBC Africa Eye.
Women’s choices are women’s rights
“Why have a baby via surrogacy?” Why have a baby via IVF?” Why not birth your own baby?” “Why not adopt a child instead?” These questions have echoed the thoughts of many regarding surrogacy and the simplest yet most fundamental response is “It’s her choice.”
To trample on one woman’s reproductive autonomy is a major setback in the long fight for women’s rights. Whether as a last resort or first option, exploring surrogacy remains a choice for some women.
Although these choices may not align with individual preferences, all women have the right to make choices about their own bodies, including the decision to carry a child for someone else. This autonomy is essential for women’s empowerment and reproductive freedom.
Many surrogates are motivated by a desire to help others, often driven by empathy and a sense of social responsibility. This selfless act can bring immense happiness to the intended parents and create a lifelong bond between the surrogate and the family.
The exploitation argument
One of the primary concerns surrounding surrogacy is the risk of exploitation and this argument is valid. Surrogacy can lead to the exploitation of vulnerable women, particularly in countries with limited regulations or vast economic disparities. There are valid concerns that women may be coerced or manipulated into becoming surrogates, often for insufficient financial gain.
Also, when surrogates are not provided with adequate support and counselling, they may form strong emotional bonds with the child they carry. This could potentially lead to emotional distress when separating from the child after birth.
Final thoughts on surrogacy
Surrogacy is not a bad thing!!
Just like the people mentioned in this video who have embraced the surrogacy journey, you too can!
It’s time to break the stigma and have open, informed conversations about assisted reproduction.
Ever considered surrogacy? Let’s talk!
pic.twitter.com/58O8dGxPJu
— Fertitude | Fertility & Hormonal Health (@fertitude) February 3, 2025
The debate surrounding the morality of surrogacy is complex and multifaceted. While there are valid arguments on both sides, it’s essential to approach this issue with empathy, nuance, and a commitment to protecting the rights and dignity of all individuals involved.
Ultimately, surrogacy should be viewed as a serious and personal decision, one that requires careful consideration, psychological evaluation, informed consent, and comprehensive support. By prioritising the well-being and autonomy of surrogates, intended parents, and children, we can work towards creating a more equitable and just system that respects the rights and dignity of all parties involved.
