If you’ve been wondering where the spark went, these simple bedtime habits might just be the sexy reset your relationship needs.
When you first started your relationship, everything felt wonderful. You couldn’t get enough of each other — you spent time together, talked constantly, and always wanted to stay connected. But now, after some time, a marriage, and maybe even kids, you’ve realised that the spark you once had is fading. Now, if you’re wondering how to save your relationship and bring back that same spark, you’re not alone
Study after study shows that intimacy, trust, and the ability to share your deepest thoughts with someone help reduce stress and feelings of loneliness. However, monotony can “kill” relationships and often lead to separation or divorce. A healthy mix of communication and physical touch is what keeps relationships thriving. Rebuilding intimacy and connection, though, won’t happen on its own — it takes effort. And there’s no better place to start than the bedroom.
Below are five tips from relationship counsellor and author Charles J. Orlando that can help improve — or even save — your relationship.
Go to bed at the same time
Bedtime is one of the best moments to truly connect with your partner. Your sleep schedule is a choice — if you’d rather create distance, keep watching your favourite show or work while your partner goes to sleep. But if you want to rebuild communication, be in the same place at the same time. Try going to bed together—and even hold hands while you do. That simple touch could lead to something more profound.
Put away your electronic devices
You might think that texting your partner keeps you connected, and it does when you’re apart — but when you’re together, it’s only a substitute for real communication. Keep your phones out of the bedroom, turn off notifications, and you’ll see your connection improve almost instantly.
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Talk in the bedroom
Dinner’s over, the kids are asleep — it’s time for the adults to be alone. Instead of talking while washing dishes or during commercial breaks, bring those conversations to the bedroom. Talking about your day as you undress is a form of release — it helps you physically and emotionally shed the day’s weight and refocus on what truly matters: each other.
Foreplay starts outside the bedroom
Part of what makes sex exciting is everything that happens before it. But if foreplay is reduced to just a few quick touches before the act, it becomes routine — and that excitement fades. Keep the passion alive by starting early: leave a flirty note on the mirror, send a teasing text during the day, or surprise your partner with a small gesture. The point is to make your desire clear— letting them know you still want them.
Always give a goodnight kiss
Every night. This simple act often disappears early in relationships, and its absence is one of the strongest signs of emotional distance. If you don’t even want to kiss your partner, what’s left? So, make it a habit to kiss goodnight — and maybe good morning and good evening, too.
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This article was originally published by Mcteam on the Marie Claire Greece website.
Translated and syndicated for Marie Claire Nigeria by Esther Akinbola.
