As sexual therapists, we often find ourselves facing these common dilemmas: women who feel guilty for not matching their partner’s sexual desire, and couples struggling to spice up their bedroom routine.
Let’s get one thing straight – there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sexual desire. Each of us has our unique experience and perception of what gets our engines revving, influenced by a myriad of factors.
So, why might women experience a dip in their libido? Here are a few possibilities:
- First off, the never-ending cycle of household chores and childcare can drain our energy and leave us feeling less than frisky. We’ve all heard of the mental load, right? That nagging in the back of your mind about everything that needs to be done can seriously put a damper on your mood – and your sex life.
- Then there’s the issue of boring sex. If your bedroom antics are all about the big O and nothing else, it’s no wonder you’re feeling less than inspired. It’s time to mix things up and explore different ways to get your groove on.
- Speaking of exploration, how well do you know your own body and what makes you tick? If you’re not sure what you like or how to ask for it, it’s time to do some self-discovery. Take charge of your pleasure and empower yourself to communicate your needs to your partner.
- Of course, we can’t forget about stress. Whether it’s work deadlines, family drama, or just the general chaos of life, stress can seriously kill the mood. Finding ways to unwind and create a relaxing atmosphere can do wonders for reigniting that spark.
- And let’s not overlook past traumas or body insecurities. If you’ve been through some rough experiences or struggle to feel confident in your skin, it’s natural for your libido to take a hit. Working through these issues with a therapist can help you reclaim your sexual confidence and embrace your body.
- Now, if hormonal changes are throwing a wrench in your sex life, don’t panic. Whether it’s menopause, pregnancy, or hormonal birth control, there are ways to manage these changes and keep the passion alive.
- And finally, let’s talk about relationship problems. Whether it’s communication issues, unresolved conflicts, or just feeling disconnected from your partner, these issues can put a serious damper on your sex life. It’s important to address these issues head-on and seek support if needed.
So, if you’re struggling with your sexual desire, know that you’re not alone. There’s help out there, whether it’s from a therapist, a supportive partner, or even just some good old-fashioned self-love. You deserve to have a fulfilling sex life, so don’t be afraid to reach out and get the support you need.
Source: Laura Müller Psychologist and sexologist at Laura Müller
This article was syndicated from Marie Claire Argentina
Translated and adapted by Praise Vandeh, Marie Claire Nigeria Content Writer
