Alright, ladies, let’s talk about the hush-hush topic – anal sex. Cátia Damasceno, Marie Claire Brazil go-to expert on all things sexy, spills the beans on how to make this experience painless and, dare we say it, pleasurable!
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Getting cosy with the best positions
For beginners, start with the spooning position – lying on your sides. It might not be the most cinematic pose, but guess what? It gives you the reins, letting you control the pace and steer clear of any discomfort. Slow and steady wins the race, right? It’s a win for your comfort, so why not give it a try?
Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room – doggy style. Sure, it’s a favorite for the guys, but for us ladies just starting out, it might not be the ideal choice. The visual spectacle might amp up their excitement, potentially causing some discomfort. So, maybe save that one for later when you’re feeling more in control.
Tools of the trade for a smooth ride
First things first – condoms are your ride-or-die. Safety first, always. No skipping this step, ladies. And, oh, let’s not forget lube – your new best friend. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t have its own natural lubrication, so an external helper is a must. There are even products out there with some numbing action, like desensitisers. Go for the 4-in-1 options – they lubricate, desensitise, stimulate, and might even have some healing magic.
Pleasure over pain
Here’s the lowdown for a pain-free pleasure ride – desire. Dive into the world of anal adventures only if you’re game for it, not just to check a box for your partner. Consent is key in every bedroom endeavor. And hey, the more turned on you are, the more at ease you’ll be, upping the pleasure stakes.
Guys, listen up
Men, this one’s for you. The anus isn’t as flexible as the vagina, so take it slow. Spooning is your go-to – start with the tip and let things ease in. Give it a few seconds, read her signals, and when she’s good to go, gently go all the way. Patience is your secret weapon.
The ultimate anal sex hack
Drumroll, please – it’s all about the trio: desire + lubricant + calmness. Don’t rush into the doggy style drama; that could lead to a not-so-pleasant experience. And for the love of all things spicy, don’t even think about it if the desire isn’t mutual. Clear communication is your golden ticket to an enjoyable time in the bedroom. Cheers to unlocking a whole new world of pleasure!
This article was syndicated from Marie Claire Brazil
Translated and adapted by Praise Vandeh, Marie Claire Nigeria Content Writer
