The wellness girlies were right — these five habits have vastly improved my quality of life

A bowl of food

I didn’t set out to become a new person. I just wanted to feel less foggy, less reactive, and less like I was surviving each day on vibes alone. So I stopped flirting with self-care and committed to small but meaningful habits. Newsflash – they work.

You know how they tell you to “get your beauty sleep”? Or that “exercise is great for your mental health”? For years, I nodded along, secretly suspecting it was all just well-meaning fluff dreamt up by impossibly enlightened people whose lives seemed to consist solely of aspirational “mindset shift” quotes and perfectly chilled cold-pressed juices.

Well, I’m here to report from the trenches of personal experimentation, live from a perfectly ordinary Friday afternoon in Lagos: it’s real. Like, genuinely, shockingly real. Turns out, those clichés are less about wishy-washy thinking, and more about practical magic. My quality of life hasn’t just incrementally improved; it’s had a true glow-up.

My relationship with self-improvement has always been less about a drastic “new year, new me!” and more about a gentle “let’s see how this can be better.” However, over the past few months, I have finally decided to stop dabbling and genuinely commit. My mindset shifted to one of genuine growth, and I began to fine-tune my daily routines with precision. It wasn’t always glamorous – my pillow and I had some passionate debates about early mornings – but the returns? Exponential.

What emerged from this grand experiment were five surprisingly simple, yet profoundly impactful, habits. They’re not rocket science, but they’ve been my personal cheat codes for greater clarity, better health, and a sense of inner calm that helps me navigate even the toughest days. So, if you’re tired of abstract wellness advice and ready for some real-world testimonials on how small changes lead to big wins, stick around. Here are the five habits that have vastly improved my quality of life, with zero filter and maximum enthusiasm.

 

Treat sleep like a priority, not a perk

For years, I treated sleep like an optional extra, a luxury I’d indulge in “when I had time.” The result? A brain that felt perpetually shrouded in fog, making decisions like a sleep-deprived squirrel trying to cross a highway. My mental clarity was less “crystal clear” and more “muddy puddle after a monsoon.”

Then came the epiphany: maybe 7 to 8 hours isn’t just a suggestion, but a non-negotiable commandment. It’s a profound act of self-respect. I started committing to an earlier bedtime, even when my internal FOMO alarm screamed about missing out on late-night scrolling. The first few nights were a battle, of course, but then… magic. Waking up no longer felt like a daily burden; it felt like a fresh start. My thoughts, once scattered, began to connect with a newfound coherence. The mundane struggle of remembering why I’d walked into a room became less frequent. Suddenly, the problems that had loomed large and insurmountable the night before often presented themselves in the harsh light of morning as merely “problems,” solvable with a clear, rested head. It wasn’t just about feeling less tired; it was about reclaiming the sharpness of my mind, allowing me to approach challenges with foresight and calm. If mental clarity is your superpower, sleep is less a luxury and more its essential fuel.

My witty wisdom: Don’t just chase your dreams, sleep on them. Your brain will thank you by helping you avoid accidentally putting  your keys in the fridge. Yes, this has happened to me.

 

Food helped improve my quality of life. My healthy plate including beans, bell peppers, and potatoes
My healthy plate

 

Gut health is sexy, actually

Let’s be honest: when you’re looking for proper chicken or turkey for your plate, is eating your vegetables really that important? While I’ve always appreciated the good side of greens, I never really made them a priority. My plates were often full of meats, breads, and fried foods, with veggies playing a supporting, almost decorative role. It wasn’t long before my gut started staging daily protests, and my metabolism moved at a glacial pace. That’s when I realised my body was clearly sending undeniable SOS signals.

Recognising these clear internal alarms, I made a crucial shift: I committed to at least one truly veggie-heavy meal daily. Suddenly, my plate, once a monochrome affair, burst into life. I found myself genuinely excited about loading up on vibrant bell peppers, tender broccoli, chickpeas, and eggplants. It became less about “eating my vegetables” and more about crafting a truly satisfying, visually appealing meal that thrilled my taste buds and my gut.

Slowly, steadily, my digestion became… polite. Regular. Predictable. It was like upgrading from a rickety old plumbing system to a state-of-the-art drainage network. The consistent influx of fibre has been nothing short of miraculous for my gut health and metabolism. More profoundly, it was a lesson in listening to my body, providing it with the foundational building blocks it truly craved. My body feels lighter, less sluggish, and frankly, far less prone to existential internal crises when it’s properly fed.

 

My witty wisdom: An apple a day might keep the doctor away, but a consistent supply of veggies will keep your gut feeling like a rockstar.

 

Mornings don’t have to be mayhem

For years, my mornings were a masterclass in chaos. I’d hit snooze until the last possible second, then launch into a frantic sprint, attempting to cram an hour’s worth of preparation into a desperate fifteen minutes. The inevitable result? Kicking off my “busy day” already feeling overwhelmed, reactive, and vaguely resentful. This frantic energy fostered an internal scarcity – a constant feeling of insufficient time and vanishing calm.

Then, a radical shift occurred: I discovered the profound concept of the “slow morning.” Instead of springing up and immediately tackling my to-do list, I consciously ease in. This means a few minutes of quiet meditation, a mindful sip of water, a moment to simply be with the dawn. There’s no frantic rush, no immediate bombardment of emails or social media. It’s a deliberate, gentle transition from the realm of dreams to wakefulness, a conscious choice to shape the beginning of my day rather than allowing it to be dictated by external demands. This seemingly simple change has made a monumental difference. My days begin with a sense of calm and control, rather than panic. This ease trickles throughout my busy days, making them feel manageable instead of relentlessly chaotic. And at the end of the day? I’m left with a feeling of contentment, and a sense that I’ve truly inhabited my hours, not just rushed through them.

 

My witty wisdom: Your morning isn’t a race, it’s a runway. Ease into it, and you’ll take off smoother. Plus, fewer accidental coffee spills.

 

Quality of life; Me at the gym. I am wearing a blue exercise set
Me at the gym

 

Lift more than spirits

Once upon a time, my mornings weren’t a gentle start, but a reluctant slide out of bed, often accompanied by unwelcome body aches and stiffness. The very idea of “exercising” before noon felt like a cruel and unusual punishment, a direct violation of the universal right to prolonged pillow time. But as I chased that elusive “better me,” I had to confront the simple truth: movement is medicine. I decided to inject some into my day — specifically, morning walks combined with evening weight training.

Now, it wasn’t that I was a complete stranger to physical exertion; my high school days saw me tackling handball, volleyball, and even a bit of badminton. I knew how to move. But after graduation, my athletic endeavours dwindled considerably — mostly to what one might humorously call “sexy time” and the occasional swim. The consistent, structured movement I’d once known vanished. So, rediscovering that rhythm, starting with brisk walks and diving into serious weight training sessions at the gym, wasn’t about overcoming awkwardness. There, I truly push myself, often lifting more than the combined weight of a small car in a single session. It’s intense — and incredibly empowering. The real wisdom lay, not just in that intensity or initial learning curves, but in the sheer, unwavering consistency of showing up. 

The transformation has been astounding. The burst of energy I get from these morning sessions isn’t just a fleeting jolt; it’s a sustained hum that carries me through the entire day. My body looks better, sure — hello, actual muscle definition! But the real game-changer is how I feel. There’s a quiet strength, a deeper resilience that extends beyond just physical prowess. This consistent movement, a daily commitment to my physical vessel, helps me show up as my best, most vibrant self, both physically and mentally. It’s a reminder that discipline in one area often sparks confidence in others.

 

My witty wisdom: Sweat now, sparkle later. Or, at least, sweat now, and don’t feel quite so winded by that second flight of stairs. It’s a win!

 

Training the brain to notice the good stuff

Okay, this one might sound a bit woo-woo, but hear me out. Before I started deliberately practising gratitude, my mind was an expert at cataloguing everything wrong or that could go wrong. It was efficient at identifying potential pitfalls, but utterly exhausting and prone to magnifying minor inconveniences into major catastrophes.

The habit? Every day, I take  a few moments acknowledging things I’m grateful for. It could be big, life-altering events (a good health report, a supportive friend) or tiny, seemingly insignificant moments (the perfect temperature of my morning tea, finding a parking spot, a particularly funny meme that made me snort-laugh). It began as a conscious effort — at times feeling a bit forced, as if I were trying to convince myself.But over time, it became second nature, a deep-seated filter through which I view the world. This simple practice has been a seismic shift for my mindset. It’s not about ignoring challenges; it’s about training your brain to seek out the positive, to appreciate the richness that already exists, even amidst difficulties. The world didn’t magically change, but my perception of it did. Life still throws curveballs, of course, but now I’m better equipped to appreciate the innings, not just dread the strikeouts. It’s the ultimate mental reframe, a profound exercise in perspective that has led to a genuinely better, more appreciative life.

 

My witty wisdom: Gratitude is like a superpower for your brain. It turns what you have into enough, and often, more than enough.

 

So there you have it – my five not-so-secret habits that have taken my quality of life from “meh” to “heck yeah!” They aren’t groundbreaking revelations, nor do they require a secret ancient scroll. Their consistent application, however, has been nothing short of transformative. From waking up with genuine mental clarity to navigating my day with a more positive, intentional outlook, these habits have woven themselves into the fabric of my daily existence, creating a tapestry of well-being that I genuinely cherish.

It’s proof that you don’t need a complete overhaul to change your life, nor do you need to subscribe to every wellness fad under the sun. Sometimes, it’s the consistent, seemingly small decisions – like choosing sleep over scrolling, or a carrot stick over a chip, or a moment of quiet reflection over immediate reaction – that accumulate into the most profound and lasting improvements. So, if you’re looking to upgrade your own life, remember: the hype around these habits? It’s not fluff. It’s practical magic — and it’s yours to claim. Now go forth, conquer your habits, and enjoy the glow-up!

Author

  • The Siren of the South, Denise is Ag. Managing Editor at Marie Claire Nigeria. An astrologer, singer, and tarot reader, she is passionate, spirited, and vivacious. Denise enjoys sitting by the ocean, and can often be found dancing to music only she seems to hear, laughing at out-of-pocket posts, or speaking to plants.

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